I’ve recently had several life coaching and tarot clients who are asking the question, “Where is My Tribe?”
As they are discovering more about themselves and “waking up,” it seems that the old structures are falling away. Situations that used to fit (jobs, relationships, belief systems, etc.), somehow don’t fit anymore. As situations and beliefs change, the tribe seems to change as well.
I have experienced this myself. It probably started when I was going through divorce eight years ago. The belief of “…until death do you part,” was starting to crumble. How could I, the daughter of parents who this year will celebrate their 50their anniversary, even think of ending my marriage? As I went through divorce, I didn’t quite fit in with all of my “married with kids” friends anymore. I didn’t belong to their tribe any longer…and I also didn’t fit in with the “single no kids” people either. I was in between tribes.
Just two years ago, I quit a job where I was making the most money I had ever made, but also knew I was being called to something else…something more spiritual…something more “me.” The day I announced that I was resigning, I immediately felt like I was out of the tribe. There seemed to be more closed-door meetings…and I was not included any more. I wasn’t in the tribe and didn’t belong…again, I was in between tribes.
And now, I am experiencing these transitions in my friendships. Some are falling by the wayside while others are getting stronger. As I discover more about myself and vibrate at a different energy, I am attracted to new and different people…and yet, some of my relationships have stayed the course, no matter what the changes.
Longing for my tribe…
I preface this next comment by telling you that I had a great upbringing in the Lutheran church — being an active member in the youth group, a musical singing group and attending church and Sunday School most weeks. And even so…I have not found a church that resonates for me and my family. For some reason, this doesn’t feel like my tribe.
And yet, the other day I was talking to a woman who attends one of the big churches in town — the kind of church that entertains you right into its pews. Surprising even myself, I had a passing thought of wanting to join the church activities to feel the energy of a tribe. Even if it wasn’t MY tribe, it was A tribe. There is something very appealing about being a part of a tribe, isn’t there?
The other day I had the opportunity to be with some of my own tribal women during our Intuition Through Tarot study group. For those three hours, I found myself feeling wrapped in tribal energy. These women resonate with the intuitive side of me…curious, wondering and in awe of what lies “out there” and “in here.” Yes…this is more like it. My tribe. People who resonate with me and my energy.
Where is your tribe? Who is in your tribe? How does it feel to be without your tribe? If you could describe what your ideal tribe would look like, be like or feel like, what would you say?
Yes…I think we are all in some stage of looking for our tribe. Let me know if you have found yours…maybe I’ll want to join.